1. Prayer Begins in the Secret Place
Jesus said:
“But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret…”
— Matthew 6:6
The foundation of prayer is not public recognition. It is a private relationship with God.
Before we pray publicly, we should learn to pray privately.
Before others hear our prayers, God should hear our hearts.
The secret place is where our relationship with God becomes strong. It is where we cry, seek, confess, listen, worship, and receive strength.
Nobody may see us praying in our room.
Nobody may know how many tears we have shed before God.
Nobody may know how many times we have called upon His name.
But God sees.
The secret place produces the strength that becomes visible in the public place.
2. We Should Not Be Ashamed to Pray
Occasionally, we should openly show that prayer matters to us.
When food is placed before us, we can bow our heads and thank God.
When someone tells us about a problem, we can say, “Let me pray for you,” and then actually pray.
When our family is facing difficulty, we can gather together and pray.
When we receive a blessing, we can publicly thank God.
When we face a crisis, we can call upon the Lord rather than pretending we have everything under control.
Prayer should not be something we hide because we are afraid of what people might think.
Jesus said:
“Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also before my Father which is in heaven.”
— Matthew 10:32
Our faith is personal, but it was never intended to be invisible.
There should be moments when people can look at our lives and say:
“That person believes in God. That person trusts God. That person prays.”
3. Our Outward Actions Should Match Our Inward Faith
James teaches us that faith is demonstrated by our actions.
In the same way, prayer should not merely be something we say with our lips. It should affect how we live.
If I pray for patience, I should allow God to work patience into my behavior.
If I pray for forgiveness, I should be willing to forgive.
If I pray for wisdom, I should be willing to listen to God’s Word and make wise decisions.
If I pray for someone’s salvation, I should also be willing to show that person the love of Christ.
If I pray for the poor, I should be willing to help those in need.
Prayer should move from our knees into our daily lives.
The world does not only need to hear that we pray.
The world should see the fruit of the prayers we pray.
4. There Is a Difference Between Witnessing and Showing Off
This is where Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 6 becomes especially important.
Jesus condemned the religious leaders who prayed in public “that they may be seen of men.”
The problem was not that they were praying publicly.
The problem was their motive.
We must examine our hearts.
Am I praying because I want God to hear me?
Or am I praying because I want people to notice me?
Am I lifting my hands because I am worshiping God?
Or because I want people to think I am spiritual?
Am I telling people that I am praying for them because I genuinely care?
Or because I want to appear religious?
There is a big difference between being seen while praying and praying to be seen.
One can express genuine faith.
The other can lead to pride.
Our goal should never be to impress people with our prayer.
Our goal should be to glorify God.
5. Let People See That We Depend on God
One of the strongest outward testimonies we can give is to demonstrate that we depend upon God.
The world teaches people to depend upon money, power, connections, intelligence, and human strength.
But the believer says:
“My help comes from the Lord.”
When trouble comes, we pray.
When we don’t know what to do, we pray.
When we have received a blessing, we pray.
When we are afraid, we pray.
When we are thankful, we pray.
When we are weak, we pray.
Prayer demonstrates that we recognize our dependence upon God.
The Bible says:
“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.”
— Proverbs 3:5
A praying Christian is saying through his or her actions:
“I cannot do this by myself. I need God.”
And there is no shame in admitting that.
6. We Should Teach the Next Generation to Pray
Our children and young people are watching us.
They learn not only from what we tell them, but from what they see us doing.
If children see their parents praying when there is a problem, they learn where to turn when problems come.
If they see their parents thanking God, they learn gratitude.
If they see their parents praying for others, they learn compassion.
If they see their parents seeking God before making important decisions, they learn dependence upon God.
We should therefore create an atmosphere where prayer is normal.
Let our children hear us pray.
Let our families pray together.
Let them see that Christianity is not merely something we do at church on Sunday.
Prayer is a way of life.
7. Let Our Lives Become a Living Testimony
The greatest outward evidence of prayer is not necessarily the volume of our voice or the position of our body.
It is the transformation that prayer produces.
Can people see more love in us?
More patience?
More forgiveness?
More humility?
More compassion?
More self-control?
More faith?
More peace?
More dependence upon God?
When we spend time with God, something should change in us.
Moses went into the presence of God, and when he came down from the mountain, his face reflected that encounter.
Our time with God should also leave an impression upon our lives.
People may not know how long we prayed.
They may never know what we said in our secret place.
But they should be able to see something different in the way we live.
Conclusion
Church, let us become people who pray.
Let us pray in our homes.
Let us pray with our families.
Let us pray for one another.
Let us pray for our communities.
Let us pray for those who are hurting.
Let us pray when we are joyful.
Let us pray when we are broken.
Let us pray when we understand.
Let us pray when we don’t understand.
But let our prayer never become a performance.
Jesus calls us to sincerity.
Pray privately, but do not be ashamed of prayer publicly.
Seek God in secret, and let the fruit of that relationship be visible in your life.
We do not pray so that people will think we are holy.
We pray because God is holy.
We do not pray to impress people.
We pray because we need God.
We do not pray to receive applause.
We pray because God deserves our worship and our trust.
So let the church be known as a praying people.
Let our families be praying families.
Let our homes be houses of prayer.
And let the world see, not merely that we talk about prayer, but that we truly live a life of prayer.
Closing Prayer
Heavenly Father,
Teach us to become people of prayer.
Help us to seek You not for the attention of people, but because we love You and depend upon You.
Give us courage to pray openly when the opportunity comes, but give us humility so that our prayers never become a performance.
Let our private prayer life produce public fruit.
Let people see Your love in us, Your peace in us, Your patience in us, and Your grace working through us.
Teach our families and our children to pray.
Make our homes places where Your name is honored.
Help us remember that our strength does not come from ourselves, but from You.
May our lives become a testimony that points people toward Christ.