False approaches to suffering.

Hyperflex
This term means .excessive suffering with suffering”. It is the overly prolonged and unpromising constant thinking about what is troubling us. Often, it’s about overestimating unimportant details, such as illness, or psychological stress, such as depression. One is too concerned with these details intensely and for too long in mind, negatively affecting his general attitude and state of health. Such a person is focused entirely on himself. He observes himself too much and imagines himself as the worst. It makes him fearful and frightened. It’s a folk saying about “painting the devil on the wall.” Hyperreflection is typically aroused by a tactlessly or carelessly spoken word, remark, or non-verbal communication (e.g., a doctor’s facial expression communicating the result of an examination). Other times – as was the case in the story of the biblical Job – “fuel to the fire” is added by ..wannabes.” friends.
Self-pity
It is only a step from hyper-reflection to a more profound insight into
my suffering and self-pity. The truth is. That is a suffering person for whom people feel sorry. No wonder, then. …that he then transfers that pity to… to self-pity. He laments “his fate” and what has happened to him and what has befallen him. This self-pity also hurts the patient’s attitude. It can even become. the patient eventually begins, “What a poor man I am,” and gets angry at the people who encourage and help him out of his hopeless attitude.
Masochism.
This term describes people who enjoy the suffering of their own volition – they make themselves miserable. They don’t do it for that reason because they want something good and something wrong. These are people who, of their own volition – or rather “will” – inflict pain or tear a wound so it won’t heal as quickly. The masochist falsely regards misfortune as happiness.
The drowning out of suffering.
In many sick people, we observe an attempt to banish thoughts of
suffering with sleeping pills, painkillers, and pills “for well.”… Basically, this is an attempt to escape reality. The “happiness” is, in a negative sense, an escape to the so-called Schopenhauer nirvana.
There are times when pain exceeds all limits, and its pharmacological and surgical relief is in order. In many other cases, “crying through the night” is the remedy for the grieving person’s medicine. It allows him not only to “vent” his inner tensions and negative emotions but also to come to a new perspective on the situation. However, he will not succeed in doing so by such “narcotizing.” This problem is only temporarily removed from direct consciousness. Such a patient may treat the problem troubling him as “invisible” for some time. And does not hear”, but he will not escape the matter and will be no closer to a solution.
Panic.
There are situations when suffering exceeds a tolerable limit, or the uncertainty lasts too long, and the person gets desperate. Panic sets in. This sometimes takes the form of. “Nothing can be done,” “all is lost” or “There is nothing to do but lay down our arms.” It awakens fatalism – the idea that everything is governed by blind “fate” and, therefore, has no to try anything. The truth is that there are situations
where nothing can be done, where the term “nothing” means, in medical terminology, “causal therapy” (treating the cause of the disease and thus eliminating the disease). But this brings us to the issue of accepting the unacceptable.

For reflection:
“Whoever does not accept in life what people fear will only go through life on its edge. Once the final word is spoken, he will not be considered neither alive nor dead. He will never be the empowerment promised to man.” R. M. Rilke
“The meaningfulness of life can also be seen in the fact that man inwardly overcoming the misfortune into which he has fallen and that by coping with the difficult situation, he grows and matures internally, even in places where many denied, which others can enjoy in fullness.” V. E. Frankl