To be children who need others

Jesus’ response to his disciples’ question about greatness in the kingdom of heaven is surprising and counterintuitive. He calls a child and says, “Unless you turn and become like children, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven.” This exchange subverts human logic, highlighting that achievements alone do not guarantee entry into the kingdom, but rather a willingness to become humble and childlike. This call to humility encourages us to emulate such humility in our own lives.In this profound statement, Jesus redirects our focus from external accomplishments to the inner workings of our hearts, revealing that true greatness lies not in our earthly achievements, but in our capacity to receive the kingdom of heaven with a sense of childlike dependence and humility. A child’s inherent quality of trust, vulnerability, and receptivity becomes the benchmark for entrance into the kingdom, starkly contrasting with the conventional understanding of greatness as a badge of power and authority.

By invoking the metaphor of childhood, Jesus underscores the necessity of setting aside our pride, our ego’s tendency to control, and our relentless pursuit of power and status. This countercultural wisdom whispers to us that genuine spiritual maturity lies not in self-aggrandizement, but in embracing a posture of humility, surrender, and openness to the divine. As we grapple with this paradoxical teaching, we are nudged to confront the illusions of our own self-importance and consider the radical implications of conforming our existence to the depths of humility revealed in the person of Jesus.

Furthermore, Jesus’ encouragement to emulate this childlike humility encourages us to reflect on the implications for our relationships, spiritual practices, and life choices. As we release our hold on the notion that greatness is measured by external success or applause, we begin to appreciate the freedom to receive and respond to others with an open heart. By tenderizing our instincts towards defiance and self-reliance, we make space for deeper connection, richer empathy, and more authentic relationships.

This childlike humility offers a profound sense of liberation from the crushing expectations that often define our lives, whether in the realm of faith or the world at large. By surrendering our need for control and influence, we unlock the possibility for growth, discernment, and radical dependence on the One who stands ready to enfold us into the kingdom of heaven. As we cherish this call to humility and endeavor to embody the meekness of a child, we gain an unobstructed glimpse into the mind of Christ and take the first, stumbling steps towards participating in the mysteries of the divine.

Children live with abandon, trusting adults to solve their problems without worrying about their reputations. They understand that their true wealth comes from God and others. Observing children’s behavior, we see that they strive for the attention of elders, not out of pride but because they need to feel protected.

As we grow, we become more independent and often reach a point where we believe we are self-sufficient. However, maturation is acknowledging that those around us contribute significantly to who we are. Similarly, in our inner lives, we learn to communicate with God from our parents, catechists, or priests, but we may eventually think we no longer need their help. Saint Josemaría noted that this self-sufficiency stems from pride and can lead to isolation and disorientation.

Saint Josemaría encouraged people to desire to be like children and make their lives big. He shared his experience of being a child and throwing himself into the arms of the Virgin Mary and the heart of Christ. This attitude allows us to recognize that we need help and guidance even as adults.

Children also love to play and often want their parents to join in, requiring adults to set aside their logic and concerns. By applying this attitude to our relationships with others, we can prioritize their needs and show kindness. Saint Josemaría believed such expressions of love and appreciation are essential for achieving happiness and connecting with others.

Ultimately, Saint Josemaría encouraged his followers to think of others and recognize that the Lord interacts with us first. By serving others, we not only become more sensitive to God’s love and action in our lives but also experience the joy of fulfilling His will. Caring for those who may seem insignificant, such as children, the sick, and the elderly, brings us closer to the Lord. Every act of kindness towards them is as if we were doing it for God himself. This helps us develop a heart like the Lord’s, which loves without expecting anything in return.

Saint Teresa of Calcutta reminded us that giving love is not always reciprocated, but that’s not the point. The act of giving itself is an opportunity for our own hearts to grow in love. Our Lady can help us develop this attitude, trusting in her example as a mother who gives herself to those she loves, without expecting anything in return. This emphasis on love should make us feel loved and cared for, knowing that our acts of love are not in vain.