Love

“So wherever there is a real love for man, it is in the same act also loved by God as the one who transcends the horizon in which man moves and by which he is carried. True love of neighbor is always the love of God, although it is initially only unconscious and not yet defined.
I believe that the least expected quality of man, the ability to love, was put into us by God and that our desire for love is an unspoken desire
after God. He who loves knows God, 9 St. John writes matter-of-factly. Truths of faith as well as the realities of love, we should only utter very much Carefully and with awe, be aware of the seriousness of these words. We are brought up not to express our feelings. Who he is not careful, he makes himself available to his critics, and there is nothing more comfortable than a mockery at the right time. That is why we are so successful in parodies, and that is why we avoid serious topics. Even theologians don’t go too far on this thin ice. When they talk about love, they all first state an emotional issue they call love. Furthermore, it is only a matter of love that comes from the will. This is called true love. The definition of the difference between love and infatuation is perhaps not missing in any psychological lecture on relationships or in any instruction for the couple.

Greek has the word love now four terms: eros, storge, philia, and agape. However, the importance of these four concepts have shifted depending on the time and place where used.
Eros is love in the middle of which I am alone. I love it because I like it brings something because there’s something I like about the other person, a character, or property, and although there is an articulated love for someone, it goes finally for my interest. The basic idea of ​​erosion is to me it was good: I love you because you make me happy because you are attractive. There is also a desire to own. The desire to be loved by the river means striving to be beautiful. When the reasons for attractiveness – youth or property – will pass away, and eros will pass away. Eros refers to the body rather than the soul and is always filled with emotions.
Storge is a term used more for the situation in the family, for the parent-child relationship. It’s the relationship of a mother who gets up several times a night to reassure her baby. It is about all parents from the realm of humans, animals, or birds who take care of their young. Only the worst of the people is missing the storge.
Filia is usually described by the word friendship and refers more to the spirit if the body. Filia gives, but simultaneously, expects an answer. I’m giving something, and I get something. In the word of the branch, there are common interests, enriching discussions, exchanges of ideas. If eros were expressed in terms face to face, then the unit is side by side. For example, a file is a relationship between David and Jonathan in the Old Testament.
After all, agape is utterly selfless love. It is a decision of the will, which does not care if the loved one is attractive. In dictionaries is defined as a selfless concern benefiting another. With this love, God loves us in Scripture: regardless of our answer, whether we are good or bad. The focus is on agape the one we love, not me. Agapé has nothing to do with feelings: he expresses himself by action. Agape is not about what I feel, but how to make. While the first three loves are in some way innate to us, agape we have to learn. However, the terms agape and filia appear in the New Testament likely to overlap partially. “