Two criteria of love.

There are two criteria for the love that Jesus gave us.
– The first criterion is expressed in words: “Love your neighbor as yourself!” (Lv 19:18). If you do not love yourself, you cannot fully love your neighbor. That is why I have spoken to you about accepting yourself. If you reject yourself, condemn yourself, do not forgive yourself, pull yourself aside, do not recognize your charisma in yourself, and do not love yourself, you cannot love others. You can only love to the extent that you love yourself. If you do not accept yourself, you cannot accept others. If you cannot forgive yourself, you cannot forgive others.
– But then Jesus gives us a second criterion in the New Testament when he says: “The new commandment I give to you, that you love one another. That you also love one another, as I have loved you.” The novelty of this commandment is not in the injunction “Love one another”-we already find that in the Old Testament. The novelty is in the words-” as I have loved you.” The criterion of loving “as yourself” is no longer sufficient. The criterion has become “as I have loved you” (cf. Jn 13,34). And how did Jesus love us? Unconditionally. Next, we will try to explain the word “unconditionally.” This is newness in love.
The difference between secular and Christian love It will be good to tell ourselves the difference between worldly and Christian love. Ordinary love in the world is love based on feelings, attraction, and sympathy. We see this on television or in reading love novels.