They retired from conducting pre-marital preparations.”They stopped conducting pre-marital preparations.”They retired from conducting pre-marital preparations.

Young people today live under one roof and we still talk about natural methods

Young people today live under one roof and we still talk about natural methods

“Our marriage preparation system is not only insufficient but from our point of view it is even demotivating. Sitting around the table and talking about the topics of Christian marriage is quite unattractive for today’s betrothed,” said the Ďurinovci couple, who participated in the preparations for the marriage.Veronika Ďurinová is an ophthalmologist and her husband Juraj Ďurina is a gastroenterologist, they have three children. Both are committed Catholics, used to serving in the church among families or with children. 

When the parish asked them to be involved as doctors in the preparation of couples for sacramental marriage, they gladly agreed and together with other couples organized courses for engaged couples. Today, they speak openly about why they left this service. 

“Betrothed today can’t even communicate with each other, they don’t know each other. We can later reach God through natural human themes. But imagine having to talk about natural family planning to people who not only can’t pray, but can’t even talk honestly with each other. In the church, we should already openly name what the reality is in this area, what kind of people and in what situations go to betrothal preparations,” the Ďurinovs claim in the interview. 

As a married couple, you were involved in the pre-marriage preparations of the betrothed in your parish. How would you characterize the couples who attended marriage preparation?

Veronika: In the parish, we were approached as doctors to talk to engaged couples about natural family planning. However, we soon understood that we were talking about the icing on the cake to people who don’t even have a corpus. 

Every time I came to these preparations, I was worried that it wasn’t supposed to look like this. The topic of natural family planning is on very thin ice even among practicing people in the church. Some accept it only from the point of view that it is a nice eco-bio method, because it does not burden the human body and the environment, while others struggle with the fact that its strict observance means the gradual loss of joy from sexuality, which is also God’s plan for sexuality. 

In addition, we mostly had couples in front of us who already lived together under the same roof. So it looked like we were explaining the basic principles of natural family planning to them and they perceived us as people from another planet. 

We understood that this is not the right way.

In the Diocese of Bratislava, there are ten topics for premarital preparation, which the engaged couple must complete when they want to get married in the church. In our parish in the Diocese of Nitra, due to the lack of active lay people, they had to complete only three topics.

What were the topics?

Veronika: Priorities of Christian marriage. Differences between a man and a woman – communication in marriage. Natural methods of family planning (PPR) – sexuality in marriage. And we had all these topics within one day. Only three couples participated in the preparations, so it was not within our power to cover ten topics.    

We understood that it cannot continue like this, we cannot hide behind a PowerPoint presentation, it must lead us to dialogue. 

So it looked like we were explaining the basic principles of natural family planning to them and they perceived us as people from another planet. 

We saw that the engaged people did not accept this, so we encouraged them to express what they really think, to be open, but almost no one was interested. We were surprised by this, we expected that young people, who grew up unencumbered by communist ideology, would be bolder in expressing their attitudes.  

Juraj: I asked them openly, for example if their parents had ever talked to them about sexuality, the answer was a clear no. Gradually, we understood more and more who we have in front of us, so we reworked our presentation.

Were they not quiet because they need to go through the preparation without problems, since they want to get married at the altar?

Juraj: Yes, from their reactions it was felt that many do not want to enter into a dialogue, because they need a paper about graduation in order to have a wedding in a church. Therefore, they did not engage in any controversies. We tried to create a free, relaxed space for dialogue, yet they did not feel like confronting us with their opinions. I would understand if they had respect for the authority of the church, for the priest, but we are a relatively young couple, and they were quiet anyway. 

It was clear to us from the way of communication that many of them may be in a Christian environment for the first time. We met only a very small percentage of engaged people who would like to live their Christianity in a close relationship with God. 

How did you come to the conclusion that talking to your fiancé especially about natural methods would not be the best way to go?

Juraj: From our experience with couples, we came to the conclusion that these people should first meet God. We talked to them about things they couldn’t even understand. It’s like teaching someone to paint and you want them to immediately paint a replica of Da Vinci, even though they don’t even know the basic techniques of painting. 

Plus, we have encountered in our community among sincerely believing people that they do not understand natural methods of family planning. How then can we ask cultural Catholics to identify with this?  

Moreover, they were mature people, often in their thirties. Some of them already had children together. It happened to us that they stopped us laughing, telling them not to talk about sexuality, because they already have two children at home.

Finally, we talked with them about sexuality as such, which in today’s world is distorted, focused on performance, efficiency and often detached from the relationship between partners. And our personal experience clearly shows that as the quality of the relationship grows, so does the dimension and quality of sexuality.  

Veronika: Everyone was afraid of how we would teach them that they should not live together before marriage. Engaged people feel that this is the main message of the church about sexuality today. Therefore, they already informed us in advance that they have been living together for a long time, or even have children, and therefore we should not instruct them in this regard. Most of the couples thought that preparation before marriage was about teaching them not to live before marriage.  

Juraj: It was obvious that even those who grew up in Christian families were injured by violent upbringing in the faith. And they didn’t go to church because they were forced to do so in childhood. But now they feel that they would like to arrange their marriage for the sake of children. 

After each meeting, Veronika and I said to each other that these people have not yet met God. They perceived that it is probably nice to have a culturally arranged marriage and formally profess Christianity, but that’s the end of it. Even the children did not plan to lead to the faith, leaving this task to the grandparents.  

We really wanted these people to experience the joy of God’s presence in their lives, because God can heal inner wounds.

So what have you come up with?

Veronika: To the fact that the system of preparations for marriage is not only insufficient in our country, but also demotivating from our point of view. Sitting around the table and talking about the topics of Christian marriage is quite unattractive for today’s engaged couple. 

So we came up with a proposal in the parish that we three couples, who voluntarily participated in the preparation of the betrothed, should be trained by experts either on a three-day course in Beck, or at the University Pastoral Center in Bratislava, or at another place where they have experience with more intensive formation. We wanted to bring better preparation to the engaged couple. We would suspend the preparation for the time being, as such a formation requires quite a bit of time in addition to work and family.

This proposal was not accepted, so we asked to be released from our service for the parish, we simply did not see the point of continuing with the training system set up in this way. 

Juraj: We think that these preparations should look different today. Young people should experience a time of pause during them to have an opportunity to meet God. We know that in some parishes in Slovakia, three-day preparations are already being made with the participation of the priest and married couples, where there is an opportunity to talk, talk about what God is doing in our lives, the opportunity to go to confession.

We think that these preparations should look different today. Young people should experience a time of pause during them to have an opportunity to meet God.

We also see it as ideal if there could also be experts, relationship counselors, who would confront the engaged couple with real problems that later occur in marriages. Let them know who to turn to when something like this happens. It is ideal to touch on the issue of frequent problems in sexuality through the eyes of a sexologist. The area of ​​basic financial literacy in marriage is also an important topic. 

With that, did you want to respond to the fact that couples today go into marriage unprepared, even from a human and psychological point of view?

Juraj: Betrothed today can’t even communicate with each other, they don’t know each other. We can later reach God through natural human themes. But imagine having to talk about natural family planning to people who not only can’t pray, but can’t even talk honestly with each other. 

In the church, we should already openly name what the reality is in this area, what kind of people and in what situations go to betrothal preparations. Those who form couples today are only inheriting nominal Christians who previously go through all the sacraments only on a formal level and enter marriage only on the level of doctrine, without a relationship and without really being confronted with the existence of God.

That’s why many people have false images about God, about the church, on a crash course for engaged couples, so we can no longer catch up on what was neglected. At the same time, this preparation may be the first and last encounter with authentic Christianity for most, why not make good use of it? A lesson on PPR won’t fix it. 

At the same time, we should tell them the reasons why they should not get married. Verbalist Milan Bubák had also dealt with this issue at the former marriage preparations at the University Pastoral Center in Bratislava, which we also attended as engaged couples. After his personal approval, we used some of the materials in our presentation.

Young people don’t have time to think about their relationship, because they deal with work, household, family, but they don’t really know their negatives or positives, they haven’t communicated many topics and they just hope that time will solve them. 

We know that there are countries where they have an annual preparation for the betrothed precisely because they realize what a serious commitment marriage is from the church’s point of view and that in this way they have the opportunity to introduce the betrothed gradually into a relationship with God.  

Years ago, a significant reform of these preparations for the betrothed was carried out at the instigation of the Pope himself, and the aforementioned ten lessons were to be gradually introduced. So you say from experience that this change does not happen everywhere in Slovakia and it depends a lot on the setting of a particular parish or diocese? 

Juraj: Exactly, it is very individual, it depends on the setting and possibilities of the parish, on the lay community, whether they will participate in these preparations, or whether they will be given space. Here too, it shows whether we as Christians are filled with the Holy Spirit. That’s not a criticism, just naming things from my point of view. We believe that when we name the challenges in the truth, we can ask God for a change. Because if there is no desire to serve in the parishes, it means that we do not have a living relationship with God, who calls us to serve. 

One may not have to be an expert, sometimes it would be enough to tell the betrothed one’s testimony, how we strive for a relationship with God and with each other, how God acts in our marriage. After all, isn’t it wonderful to talk about it?

We try to live our Christianity in families so that we are effective and efficient for God, but not with God. 

And it is true that the more people put into service in the parish, the less time it takes for one family and it can be managed better. Although it was difficult for us, it was also very enriching for us. Even though we felt that the meetings were not what they could have been, we as a couple were forced to talk a lot more. The service enriched us. 

It can be different in Bratislava, as well as in big cities where there are lively communities, we mainly talk about our experience.

On the other hand, there has already been a certain shift. In the past, only priests made preparations for the betrothed, now married couples have been given space. Did you have materials available that you drew on? 

Veronika: To be honest, the materials are, from our point of view, unusable due to the nature of the groups of betrothed with whom we came into contact. They are poorly written and difficult, I didn’t understand many things myself and I couldn’t even imagine how to talk about it to the engaged people who live in all kinds of situations today. Considering our audience, we couldn’t even get inspired by it.  

We went to see the preparation of first-time adopters at the Salesians in Miletička, where thematic meetings are held not only for children, but also for parents.

Are the priests aware of the settings with which engaged couples come to the parish for preparation today?

Juraj: It is very individual, but those who work with young people cannot ignore it and will certainly confirm our point of view. We see a great benefit in the synodal journey, that we lay people will also start acting more confidently than before and offer our perspective on what is happening in the church. We should listen more in this new spirit.

Young people today need to meet both authenticity and experience in the church.

What do you mean?

Juraj: We should convey to young people what we have really experienced, it is not enough to just say what is asked of us. Not to hide the real difficulties of families, not to avoid the crises that arise in marriage. Do not repeat only learned truths. 

In the church, we must rediscover the life that comes from God, that is our strength, that will also attract young people. God is not sentimental, but very practical because he changes our lives. A living believing Christian should be a practical Christian. 

Here some would perhaps oppose you by saying that the preparation for the betrothed is perhaps the only and last option when young people encounter the truth about marriage, therefore it is necessary to take advantage of it and tell them the whole teaching of the Church, what is expected of a good Catholic couple, so that they know what they are committing to by getting married in the church. 

Juraj: All the wealth we have in the church comes from Jesus’ formation of human hearts. Today we are approaching it from the opposite end. We should talk about what God is like and then get to the Catholic Church and the riches it has. 

Instead, we talk about how we should be so that God will love us, and we destroy the image of God. God loves us unconditionally just as we are. He does not change his attitude towards us. But in order to be free, we must be careful not to enter into sin. 

We need to know who comes to us for those preparations and what kind of life they live. An individual approach requires open hearts.

It is difficult to talk about sin nowadays, because people do not understand that sin is actually missing the goal. However, when someone gets to know God, he understands that the only happiness he finds is in a relationship with him, and his relationships begin to mend, wounds heal, and he begins to look at his life differently. And it will no longer deal with whether the church says this and asks that. The only thing he will be interested in will be the will of God the Father. 

Veronika: The Pope set the path well and talks about exactly this dimension. He emphasizes that people come to know God based on how we love one another. So that people begin to ask the testimony of our lives: “How is this possible? Why do you live like this? Why are you happy?” With authentic people, people begin to ask themselves how it is possible that they are doing well, that they are at peace, even though everything around them is falling apart. 

Even in the topic of sexuality, we present that we will go to heaven if we really comply with all that the church demands. They blame the Pope for preaching the path of individual approach. Today, we perceive it as a journey also in preparation for marriage. We need to know who comes to us for those preparations and what kind of life they live. An individual approach requires open hearts. Some things take time to understand. 

The spirit of prosperity is spreading in Slovakia, which is based on the fact that if I fulfill this and that, I deserve heaven. It also happens in the Catholic Church. There is a growing group of young people who go on pilgrimages, pray, make sacrifices, fast, engage in the protection of unborn life, have various activities and expect that “Lord, you see, I am already doing all this, I have given all this to you and I I am now asking for a good wife, a husband, a good life”.

It is important to draw attention to this, so that it does not happen that we want to be orthodox, we want our children to be like this, and then some turning point occurs that throws us out of the concept. 

The setting of the heart is important, because when it is open, God acts. However, we are not yet ripe for real dialogue. Do we give our children, spouses the opportunity to meet God? Are we listening to them enough? The fact that we list the priorities of the church does not mean that they have met God. Truth without love is like the slapping of a whip. 

What was the reaction in your parish when you gave up your engagement formation service because you didn’t want to continue with the established system?

Juraj: We explained our reasons for withdrawing from the preparations. However, the others did not see it as a problem, so we parted ways. However, this direction was essential for us, so we could not continue with the original setup. But we didn’t even find out what others actually think.

In the church, we lack open dialogue, we are not taught to say what we really think. However, we saw that there was no interest in changing anything, so we abandoned the preparation of the betrothed for the time being. 

There is still a strong spirit of clericalism in the sense, let’s do it the way we’ve been doing it, and that’s good. Every change is a pain, so we’d rather not even start it.

Veronika: It’s our Slovak phenomenon in the church that we place huge burdens on people, but we don’t want to carry them ourselves. People should not be afraid to talk about unpleasant things from their lives in Christian communities, and they should find encouragement that it doesn’t matter, we move on together.

We live in a rare time of the Synod, we walk together, one is lame, the other is in a wheelchair, another is walking, another is running, but we are going together. As believers, let us have the courage to name what we are not doing well, we are all the church after all, priests and lay people need each other. Don’t be afraid to talk about shortcomings.

People feel that Christian marriage is something very difficult, it is a set of things that must be followed. That is a great pity.  

On the other hand, however, it is true that the church is the only institution today that offers preparation for marriage. If someone wants to get married at the office, he doesn’t have to go through anything like that. 

Juraj: Exactly, the church offers it and it’s great that it does it. It gives importance to marriage and the commitment it represents. It is enough to make this preparation more targeted and practical. Precisely because families today have it more difficult than ever before. 

Let’s be honest, no amount of preparation can save people, but it can offer them as much as possible so that their relationship can grow in truth. If only they realized that they have to work on the relationship, that the relationship will change, as children come, as we grow older, and that when we forget about the relationship, we lose it. What is Christian marriage? Inviting God into our relationship. But if I am not communicating with God or my partner, how can I invite God into our midst? 

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Ash Wednesday Matthew 6, 1-6,16.18

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What is repentance, and is it necessary for salvation?

Many understand the term repentance as “turning away from sin.” This is not the biblical definition of repentance. In the Bible, the word repentance means “to change one’s opinion or thinking.” The Bible also tells us that true repentance will result in a change of behavior (Luke 3:8–14; Acts 3:19). Acts 26:20b declares, “I preached that they should repent and turn to God and do works worthy of repentance.” The full biblical definition of repentance is a change in thinking that leads to a change in behavior.

So what is the relationship between repentance and salvation? Acts seem to focus primarily on repentance rather than salvation (Acts 2:38; 3:19; 11:18; 17:30; 20:21; 26:20). To repent about salvation is to change your mind about Jesus Christ. Peter ends his sermon at Pentecost (Acts 2) with a call to repentance (Acts 2:38). Repentance of what? Peter calls the people who rejected Jesus (Acts 2:36) to change their thinking to recognize that He is indeed “Lord and Messiah” (Acts 2:36). Peter is calling people to change their minds from rejecting Christ as Messiah to believing in Him as Messiah and Savior.

Repentance and faith can be understood as “two sides of the same coin.” It is impossible to place your faith in Jesus Christ as your Savior without changing your mind about who He is and what He has done. Whether it is repentance from willful rejection or repentance from ignorance or disinterest, it is a change of mind. Biblical repentance to salvation is changing one’s mind from rejecting Christ to believing in Him.

We must understand that repentance is not an activity that we do to earn or obtain salvation. No one can repent and come to God unless God draws him to himself (John 6:44). Acts 5:31 and 11:18 indicate that repentance is something God gives—it is only possible through His grace. No one can repent unless God provides repentance. The result of all salvation, including repentance and faith, is that God draws us to Himself, opens our eyes, and changes our hearts. God’s patience leads us to repentance (2 Peter 3:9), as does His kindness (Romans 2:4).

Although repentance is not a work by which salvation can be earned, repentance to or for salvation results in works. It is impossible to truly and fully change one’s mind without it being reflected in actions. In the Bible, repentance leads to a change in behavior. This is why John the Baptist called people to “bear fruit worthy of repentance” (Matthew 3:8). A person who has truly repented from rejecting Christ to having faith in Christ will have visible evidence of a changed life (2 Corinthians 5:17; Galatians 5:19–23; James 2:14–26). Correctly defining repentance is necessary for salvation. Biblical repentance changes your mind about Jesus Christ and turns you to God in faith for salvation (Acts 3:19). The definition of repentance is not turning away from sin; that is just one of the results of sincere, faith-based repentance to the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Intemperance

An intemperate person is one who has gone beyond the proper limits in eating and drinking. It is, of course, not easy to say where this begins and ends. Moralists, therefore, usually content themselves with four general guidelines. The first rule is external, social. The immoderate is one who cannot abstain from food or drink that is expressly forbidden, e.g., who eats meat on days when abstinence is enjoined, who cannot withhold it even on the two days of Lent days of the ecclesiastical year (Ash Wednesday and Good Friday).
There are, however, other forbidden foods. The sick are sometimes ordered to doctors put the sick on a strict diet. It is, understandably, an unstrict one who breaks it despite the damage to his health. The one who is considered intemperate we also consider one who cannot control his eating and conform to the rules of decency and good customs of the society in which he lives.

The second rule concerns personal moderation. We eat and drink to make the body strong. Thus, immoderate is anyone who weakens himself by eating and drinking, who destroys his health and efficiency, who gets drunk, etc. Everything that God has created is to serve good. Sin is the misuse of God’s gifts. Usually natural feeling and experience are enough to know, when we are full and when harmful overeating begins.

The third rule is more subtle and seems to apply only to
those who strive for greater perfection. Spiritual writers consider both intemperance and pickiness in eating to be intemperance,seeking out expensive foods and delicacies. As a reason is that it feeds the senses while weakening the will and the endurance to endure the hardships of life. The experience of daily life, however, confirms that they are ill-equipped for life those who have not learned fastidiousness and avarice from youth. Nevertheless, most good people have feel as if they were touching their honest right to make a profit and enjoy themselves with their own money. Naturally, this cannot and should not be denied to anyone. For we eat not only to keep ourselves alive, but also to feel good, to be satisfied. However, there are limits here, too. Social justice demands that others feel good too. Can this fully justify the unnecessary and exorbitant expenditure that goes down our throats when a third of the globe suffers malnutrition and outright starvation? In that case, is it really ‘our own’ even that which is unnecessary?
The fourth rule, in turn, is related to the spiritual ideal. The perfect Christian is to bear witness to the power of the spirit. It is difficult to speak here of the virtue of spiritual values when one sees in one who professes them, that he is blindly subject to carnal inclinations, and that during meals everything else takes a back seat. It is thus considered immoderate to eat and drink, which is undisciplined, with animal predation, where the appetite and the stomach become stronger than ourselves.
Of the dangers of intemperance to the health of the body the physicians have spoken sufficiently. They say jocularly that they have taken over upon themselves today the old ecclesiastical duty of imposing upon the people fasts. It is not, of course, only intemperance in eating. We know well how sad are the effects of alcoholism, of excessive smoking, and especially of the use of narcotic and irritating
poisons.
The ascetic writers are more concerned with spiritual damage. Intemperance is the manifestation of a weak will and a lack of interest in the higher values. He who cannot control himself in such small matters will soon, as it is figuratively said, sell his birthright in the kingdom of God for a lentil (cf. Gn 25:29). Immodesty is called “the mother of fornication.” Strong diet, understandably, feeds the carnal urges, and strong drinks diminish the sense of responsibility.
According to St. John Climacus, intemperance is “the hypocrisy of the stomach, which laments that it is empty even when it is filled to the top… Gluttony of food is the cause of sensuality; mortification of the stomach leads to purity. If you pet a lion, sometimes it can be tamed, but the body, the more it is indulged, the wilder the animal becomes… Control intemperance before it controls you”!

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What does the Bible say about suffering?

Of all the challenges facing Christianity in modern times, perhaps the most difficult to explain is the problem of suffering. How can a loving God allow suffering to continue in the world he created? For those who have lived through enormous suffering themselves, this is much more than a philosophical problem, but a deeply rooted personal and emotional one. How does the Bible address this question? Does the Bible give us some examples of suffering and some pointers on how to deal with it?

The Bible is surprisingly realistic about the problem of enduring suffering. First, the Bible devotes an entire book to solving this problem. This book is about a man named Job. It begins with a scene in heaven that provides the reader with the background of Job’s suffering. Job suffers because God wrestled with Satan. As far as we know, Job or any of his friends never knew this. Therefore, it is not surprising that everyone tries to explain Job’s suffering from the perspective of their ignorance, until finally Job rwrestlesests in nothing but loyalty to God and the hope of his redemption. Neither Job nor his friends at that time understood the reasons for his suffering. In fact, when Job is finally confronted by the Lord, Job remains silent. Job’s quiet response does nothing to lessen the intense pain and loss he so patiently endured. Rather, it underscores the importance of trusting in God’s purposes in the midst of suffering, even when we do not understand its meaning. Suffering, like all other human experiences, is governed by God’s sovereign wisdom. Ultimately, we learn that although we may never know the specific reason for our suffering, we must trust in our sovereign God. That is the real answer to suffering.

Another example of suffering in the Bible is the story of Joseph in the book of Genesis. Joseph was sold into slavery by his own brothers. In Egypt he was accused of false accusations and thrown into prison. As a result of Joseph’s suffering and perseverance, Joseph, by God’s grace and power, is later promoted to the governorship of Egypt, second only to Pharaoh himself. In a time of famine, he found himself in the position of caring for the nations of the world, including his own family and brothers who sold him into slavery! The message of this story is summed up in Joseph’s address to his brothers in Genesis 50:19–21: “Do not be afraid! Am I here instead of God? You planned evil against me, but God turned it for good, so that it became what it is today, to save the lives of many people. Don’t worry now! I will feed you and your children. So he comforted them and spoke kindly to them.”

Romans 8:28 contains some comforting words for those who endure hardship and suffering: “We know that all things work together for good to those who love God, who have been called according to his purpose.” God, in His providence, arranges every event in our lives—even suffering, temptation, and sin—for our benefit both temporally and eternally.

The psalmist David suffered much in his time and this is reflected in many of his poems collected in the book of Psalms. In the 22nd Psalm, we hear David’s anxiety: “My God, my God! why did you leave me You are far from my salvation, far from my cry, my God, I call in the day — you do not answer. I call at night — I can’t calm down. You, the Holy One, are enthroned over the praises of Israel. Our fathers hoped in you, they hoped, and you delivered them. They cried out to you and were saved. They hoped in you, and were not ashamed. I am like a worm, not like a man; I am a laughing stock to people, even my own people have rejected me. All who see me mock me, sneer, shake their heads: He trusted in the Lord, he should save him. Let him tear him out, because he is fond of him.”

For David, it remains a mystery why God does not intervene and end his suffering and pain. He sees that God is enthroned as the Holy One, on the praises of Israel. God lives in heaven, where all is good, where there is no crying, no fear, no hunger, no hatred. What does God know about all that people endure? David further complains that “The dogs surrounded me, a band of evil-doers seized me, they pierced my hands and feet. I can count all the bones. They are watching, their eyes are on me. They divide my garment, they cast lots for my clothing.”

Did God ever answer David? Yes, many centuries later, David received his answer. About one millennium later, a descendant of David named Jesus was killed on a hill called Calvary. Jesus endured the suffering and shame of his ancestor on the cross. Christ’s hands and feet were pierced. Christ’s robe was divided among his enemies. They looked at Christ and mocked him. In fact, Christ spoke the words with which David begins this psalm: “My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” So he identified with David’s suffering.

Christ, the eternal Son of God, in whom dwells the fullness of God, lived on earth as a man and endured hunger, thirst, temptation, shame, persecution, nakedness, sorrow, betrayal, mockery, injustice and death. Therefore, he is in a position to fulfill the desire of Job: “There is no one who judges between us, who lays his hand on us both. Let him remove his rod from me, and let not his fear terrify me, then I will speak and not be afraid of him, for it is not so with me” (Job 9:33).

Christian theism is actually the only worldview that can consistently understand the problem of evil and suffering. Christians serve a God who lived on this earth and endured trauma, temptation, death, torture, hunger, thirst, persecution and even execution. The cross of Christ can be considered the ultimate manifestation of God’s justice. When asked how much God cares about the problem of evil and suffering, the Christian God can point to the cross and say, “Like this.” Christ experienced rejection from God and said: “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”. He experienced the same suffering as many people today who feel isolated from God’s favor and love.

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The drama of faith.

When we open the Bible and follow the journey of the chosen people of God in the deepening, clarifying, and purifying of their faith, we come to see how difficult this journey is leading to the mystery of God, how difficult is the journey of faith. And not only for Israel, but also for us. Every day, we can see how we are affected by every… on every corner of our lives. And we must not forget that faith itself is darkness and uncertainty. That is why we speak of the drama of faith. So when we enter this real tunnel, we should remember Jesus’ invitation, “Strive for this, to enter through the narrow door.” (Luke 13:24) The test in the desert.
In several places, the Council presents the life of faith as It, even compares it to a pilgrimage (LG 2:8, 65). Israel’s journey through the desert. This journey certainly meant for the faith of Israel in the Lord a trial by fire. But while it is true that faith Israel’s faith came out of this test strengthened, we can see in this journey, we can observe both adoration and blasphemy, obedience and rebellion, faithfulness and apostasy, calling on the Lord and protesting against him. All of this can be a great symbol of our relationship to God while we’re “on the road” and most importantly, and I’d like to emphasize, it is also a symbol of all the fluctuations and confusions that each person suffers as they ascend to God in their lives of faith. As we see it in the Bible, few people have been of these weaknesses have been spared. When the time was fulfilled, God entered the scene of human history.
He stepped in to touch people, to set them free, to make them equal to himself. God’s friend and the leader of the people, Moses, stands up Pharaoh, gathers the scattered people and sets out with them on a to the land of the free. Out of Egypt, the great journey of faith to light begins. But even after the first steps, the hearts of the people begin to twist like a crisis of faith. Doubt makes them cry out: “Was it not in Egypt enough graves for us to die in the midst of?” (Ex. 14:11).
“It has come to that which we talked about in Egypt: Let us be, that we may serve Egypt. For it was better for us to serve than to die in the wilderness.” (Ex. 14:12). The people give prefer security to freedom. In the midst of confusion, the only thing Moses keeps his faith alive: Fear not, O Lord. “he will shine in his glory” and tomorrow you will see his glory (Ex. 14:13), for the Lord “will fight for us and with us.”
After these words, the faith of the people was rekindled. And on their own …they observe with their own eyes phenomena never seen before. Suddenly, a strong wind arose, that parted the waters of the sea. And the people passed through the middle of the sea on dry land, the waters were a wall to their left and right, while the Egyptians were trapped at the bottom of the sea. In the face of this, the people believed the Lord and his servant Moses” (Ex. 14:31) and sang him a song of victory (Ex. 15:1-18). Yet they needed one more “sign”, to renew their faith. “Blessed are those who have not seen, and yet believed” (John 20:29).
They went out into the wilderness of Sure and wandered in the desert for three days. And in the desert again the faith of the people is put to the test. The silence of the earth and sometimes the silence of the of God falls upon their souls, and they feel fear. They have run out of supplies. What will they eat? And despondency and longing fall upon the people like a ravening, and rebellion is born. “But you have brought us out into this wilderness, only to starve this whole congregation to death. Would that we had had died by the sword at the hands of the Egyptians” (Ex 16:3).
The people eventually succumbed to the temptation to repent and began again crying out: “Who will give us meat to eat? We remember
the fish we had for free in Egypt, the cucumbers and melons, leeks, onions, and garlic.” (Nu 11:5) Moses, whose faith remained unshaken as he daily spoke with God “as with a friend,” he told them: “I with your I have nothing to do with your grumbling, it is a grumbling against It is a grumbling against the Lord. But I assure you that in the morning you will see the Lord’s and your murmuring will be ridiculous.” (cf. Ex. 16:5-9) The quail flew in toward evening and descended on the camp. And in the morning something like dew fell around the camp, and every morning the people they were fed every morning. (Ex. 16:13-16). The wandering continued in the blazing sun through a sea of hot sand towards Pradesh-Barnes. And as they walked, again their souls were seized with despondency and temptation; the temptation to stop, to abandon the wandering and return to the old comfortable life, albeit in slavery. “Therefore hast thou brought us out of Egypt, that thou lightest bring us , our sons and our flocks to quench our thirst” (Ex 17:3).
And at this moment a piercing doubt casts away the memory of so many wonders, criticizes the foundation of faith, and expresses itself in that terrible question: “Is the Lord among us, or is he not? ” (Ex. 17:7) Doubt has reached its highest peak. Therefore, the place was called Massey (because they were protesting against God) and Meribah (because they tempted the Lord). This was a test in the wilderness on the road to the land of Canaan. Few people who take God seriously have not had to go through some severe test.
New trials in new deserts
The journey of faith has always been rough and difficult, but in our time the difficulties even more so. The Church today is going through a new desert. For those wandering in the wilderness are threatened with what they once were: the petulance of being God is not seen, new “gods” who want us to be to worship, and the temptation to stop on this hard road of faith and return to the comfort of “fertile Egypt”.

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Healing the deaf-mute Mk 7, 31-37

Hearing impairment is severe because it can significantly affect a child’s development. The degree of disability and the age at which the disability occurred are essential. The way of communication is significant. They are hearing disability results from an organ or functional disorder in any part of the auditory analyzer, pathway, and cortical centers. A person is born with congenital deafness. In this case, the child does not even learn to speak, it becomes deaf and dumb, which may be hereditary deafness, an infectious disease of the mother during pregnancy or others. Deafness can also be acquired during life as a result of overcome diseases. According to the evangelist, it was deafness from birth.

Muteness is the loss of the ability to speak or communicate using speech. In contrast to the deaf-mute, hearing is preserved, so mutes hear but do not speak. Loss of speech can manifest as an inability to speak normal language, with the affected person being able to make certain sounds. Deaf mutes from birth could not learn to talk because they were born deaf. In our case, it was such a person. Even modern medicine cannot treat this disease. The lives of such disabled people can only be improved with the help of technical aids, but it cannot cure deafness and muteness from birth.

From the above we can see that 2000 years ago Christ also healed such a severely disabled person, which we cannot explain otherwise, except by confessing that only God can prove it. Thus, Jesus is the God who usually healed with simple words three times, even at a distance (Mt 8:5-13; Mk 7:29-30; Jn 4:46-54). In this case, he first used external signs: he touched his ears and his tongue, looked up to heaven with a sigh, and worked a miracle with his powerful words. 

Another peculiarity is that there is no mention of the condition of faith for healing. The sick person is healed, not because of his proven faith, but because the mighty Son of God came into the world to indicate the final salvation with a miraculous sign. Both peculiarities can be explained if we consider that the miracle took place in the Decapolis, a pagan resort with a famous bath on the eastern side of Lake Tiberias. The Lord thereby gave a certain message to the Gentiles while using the signs of the practices of the ancient doctors.

The physical healings performed by Jesus always have an existential relationship to salvation because sickness and death are the consequences of sin, and its definitive overcoming also includes the elimination of sickness and death. By healing the deaf and dumb, he wants to tell us: You, too, are often deaf and dumb, unable to listen and give an excellent response to God’s word. 

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Sixth Sunday in ordinary Time Year B Mark 1,40-45

We can say that today’s first reading and the Gospel form such a frame of the picture. We could also compare it to a series and say that the first reading is the first part and the Gospel is the last, final part. The final part went well, the sick man was healed, so we could leave with a good feeling. When you watch a series, you end up saying to yourself: “Well, after all, it’s happening somewhere on that TV, it doesn’t concern me”, but this series, which today’s texts are talking about, concerns us, it concerns every one of us. But I will start with the disease and the history as it was.

The Israelites were very afraid after they left Egypt. They were afraid that some calamity, some epidemic would befall the nation, and therefore they tried to eliminate, eliminate all risks, reduce them to a minimum, and therefore here with these diseases that they could not cure (they did not even know how to treat them, not as cure it yet), so they were already putting forward what are called quarantine measures, isolation. And that measure was very harsh, because as we heard in the first reading, three symptoms were listed there: a sore on the skin, a scab, or a bright spot. But all these are far from the symptoms of leprosy. These are the symptoms quite extensively of other various diseases. But because there was that great fear, this person was isolated, immediately.

So it also became obvious that they isolated people who were not lepers, and who, on the contrary, were in great danger of contracting the leprosy. A man who was thus brought before a high priest or a priest, and he preached over him that lesson about the signs, that man was truly isolated. We can say, he was dead in three ways: medically, socially and religiously. On the social side, there was the fact that he had to move out of the Israeli camp. After that, when they lived in Palestine, in the Holy Land, these people had to leave the city, the village, and lived in some caves or in some shelters. They had to wear clothes that showed that something was wrong with the person, that he was dressed strangely, that something was wrong with him. And when they had to meet someone, they had to shout: “Unclean, unclean!” In later times, they “improved” it even more, so that if they were moving in a group, then at least one of them had to have a bell and ring it, so that a random pedestrian would not approach them. Other people were not supposed to approach them at a distance of less than 10 steps. Why? Well, because then they themselves risked being put in that quarantine. So great was the fear of this disease. The man was cut off from everything. He was actually surviving. There was a big mistake on the religious side. They believed that this terrible disease will be given to the person who has sinned in some terrible way, transgressed against God. And in this they made a great mistake, that they always connected it with sin and with the punishment for sin. This is definitely not the case. When we hear it like that, we say to ourselves: “So it was inhumane.” Yes, it was very harsh, and those people who were infected with leprosy, those people were actually sentenced to death, to a slow, gradual death. They actually justified it by saying that if they were left there, far more people would die. This is a question of prevention and these things, but we will look at it in a different way. When we talk about the lepers, about the fact that they were isolated, we say to ourselves: “That was once upon a time, that doesn’t concern us.” But let’s try to realize that every leper had a family – a father, mother, siblings, or even a wife , children. And for these people who remained in that company – their brother, husband, wife – it was not a stranger, but it was a person they loved, and he could not be with them at once.

So these relatives tried to make life easier for them. They brought them food, clothes, made appointments to have fun at a distance of ten steps and thus tried to support them in every possible way. They tried to show them sympathy. And now we come to what is in the gospel, and what concerns us. Every quarantine, isolation builds dams between people, barriers that are sometimes difficult to cross, that many times people don’t even want to cross. Many times we come across that those barriers are artificially created and people have no compassion. Jesus breaks down that barrier – he talks to him, goes to him, touches him. If that person was healed or if Jesus healed him, then Jesus would also have to be quarantined. And the fact that Jesus touched the leper, that he stretched out his hand to him, for all those around Jesus, was unimaginable, something unheard of. In doing so, Jesus really broke all the regulations of the time. He did it because he had compassion, could help, and knew how to help. Jesus does not stop at pity, but helps.

As a result of original sin, we all tend to build barriers around ourselves, to protect ourselves. In a way, when we think about it, we all want to live in safety, and we also try to build the space we live in to be safe. This means that people I like, people I like, people who don’t threaten me (at least that’s what I tell myself), people who don’t compete with me, for example, with those friends. Those who, in my opinion, could in some ways threaten, harm or overshadow me, I push them out: “They are not my friends. Let them stay somewhere, I don’t count with them in my world.” And this is how we build barriers.

As I say, we are all prone to it, it is a consequence of the fall of the first people. So, it can be explained humanly, but according to the Gospel it is not justifiable. The Gospel asks us, first, to realize that we have these tendencies, and secondly, the Gospel asks us to try to destroy them. I would point out that the emphasis is really on “trying to break down”, because we don’t always succeed. But now I am not talking about those barriers that are, we would say, worldwide, like enmity between nations, barriers between races, the gap between the rich and the poor, but I am talking about the environment in which each of us lives. It is not so visible there. We do not live in any tense situation, in any strained relationships. It’s all more “combed”. Perhaps it is not visible at first glance, but … There is a “but”. Each of us should ask what it looks like with those barriers around me, if he doesn’t like it and if he isn’t happy with it. The barriers are of all kinds: barriers of political opinions, economic situation, between the young, between the old, between the healthy, the sick and I don’t know what else. The first thing to overcome them: it is necessary to have compassion, to see the other person, that he has a face, that he is not an anonymous person, that he is not just some number in statistics, but that he is a living person. This is how Jesus sees him.

And then another thing: asking Jesus: “Lord, what can I do? How could I change it, how could I tear it down?” As I say, it doesn’t always work, but almost always it can be at least mitigated. We have to realize that the Church in which we live, which we create, does not belong only to some elite, some selected group of people, but all those who belong to it are healed and purified. From what? Well, from our mistakes, because Jesus is the one who heals us all the time. He heals us by forgiving us. We can say: “I belong to Jesus, but I belong there because He healed me.” Jesus is the one who came to heal, to purify, to unite. All these are the basic features of the gospel. We, as disciples of Jesus, should report to this and try to apply it. So let us succeed with his help.

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St. Hieronymus Ämiliani.

Girolamo (Latin: Hieronymus) was born into the wealthy Venetian patrician family of the Miani (Latin: Aemiliani). After receiving a lavish upbringing and training, he embarked on a military career at the age of 15. In 1506 he was admitted to the Grand Council (Maggior Consiglio) of his hometown. He also quickly made his career as an officer; In the Great Venetian War (1508–1511) between the Republic of Venice and the League of Cambrai, he rose to the rank of general . As commander of the fortress of Castelnuovo di Quero, he had to bow to French superiority in 1511 and was taken prisoner of war. [1] That is why he is often seen in pictures with a chain. According to legend, the Virgin Mary appeared to him in the dungeon and gave him a key to open the shackles. After escaping from captivity, he dedicated his life to becoming a priest. He also founded several orphanages where children who had lost their parents in the war found shelter. [2] In the following years, at the request of the local bishops, he expanded his activities to Milan , Pavia and Verona . [3] Hieronymus Ämiliani remained a layman throughout his life. Pope John Paul II described him as a “layman who inspires laypeople.” [4]

When there was a famine in Venice in 1528, which was exacerbated by an epidemic of plague, Jerome gathered young men to help the hungry, sick and dying. In 1531 Jerome finally left his father’s house. He and two of his companions, the priests Alessandro Besozzi (Latinized: Besuzius) and Agostino Barili, decided to write a Vita communis . In 1532 a community arose in Bergamo under the leadership of Agostino Barili, and in 1534 a community arose in Somasca under the leadership of Hieronymus. Their house became the mother house of the Somaski order. On February 8, 1537, Hieronymus Ämiliani died of the plague .

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Doubts are inevitable, they move us to a higher level in the Spirituel.

Let’s not ask what we did wrong, but let’s focus on finding the answer to what God wants from us.    

After conversations about, which represent the seven cardinal sins, we will gradually bring conversations about the virtues. We start with faith.

“When faith focuses purely on doctrinal formulations, it risks speaking only to the head without touching the heart. And when it focuses only on the action, it risks becoming moralizing and reduced to only the social side.

However, faith is life, it is experiencing the love of God, who changed our existence,” says Pope Francis in the book On Vices and Virtues .

We talked about life with the gift of faith with Franciscan Gabriel Prievalský, OFM, who decided to believe when he was 33 years old.

“God is always patiently offering us this gift and waiting for our response. However, after accepting it, we must not rest on our laurels that we are already finished Christians. It is a life-long voyage, if we stop rowing, we move away from the goal,” explains Father Gabriel.

It also encourages parents who worry that their children have lost their faith. It is natural that there will be moments in a person’s life when faith does not make sense to him.

“However, such situations presuppose faith on their part as well. It is God’s formation not only of a person in a moment of crisis, but also of their maturation in faith,” says the Franciscan.

Faith does not work without doubts, they are even necessary for us to move forward in our spiritual life. Father Gabriel compares it to an “atomic bomb” that sometimes God throws into our lives so that we consider his direction.

What does it mean that faith is a theological virtue?

Its originator and giver is God. Faith opens a person to devotion to God. So it is not faith in the sense that we believe the teacher that three plus three is six. It is focused on God.

If faith is a gift from God, how come not everyone has it?

God truly offers this gift to everyone. But the acceptance of the gift presupposes a human response. There are various circumstances in life that prevent a person from accepting faith. However, this does not rule out that one day the moment will come when he opens up to something higher. The Lord God leads us along different paths, and only he sees into the heart of a person.

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However, the faith of those who received this gift is not the same. Does God give different sizes of gift boxes?

The Lord God gives to everyone according to his natural abilities and possibilities. At the same time, it is the freedom of God to give as much as He wants, considering the intentions He has for man. However, He gives everyone enough to be enough for salvation and personal perfection. No one is deprived.

St. Francis de Sales talks about the fact that the piety of a religious is different, the piety of a worker is different, and the piety of a bishop is different. The same applies to, for example, the spiritual life of a mother or religious. Everyone has their own spirituality and comparison is not appropriate.

Let us not look to the faith of others, let us take care to realize our vocation with the equipment with which we have been gifted. Envy can lead us to realize what we would like in life and who we would like to be, says theologian Lucia Hidvéghyová.

There will be moments in a person’s life when faith does not make sense to him. Are such doubts natural?

Doubts in faith are even necessary in order for us to progress further in our spiritual life, to a higher level.

The first significant moment is for young people during puberty, when they start to rebel. And this rebellion in the area of ​​faith consists in the fact that their childish faith is no longer enough for them. They need to take it to another level and believe in a personal God.

I tell parents who worry about their child’s loss of faith that such situations presuppose faith on their part. It is God’s formation not only of a person in a moment of crisis, but also of their maturation in faith. To despair of a patient is to insult the doctor.

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